Perhaps you wouldn’t expect me to feature New York Times bestselling author Gretchen Rubin on my blog. After all, I focus on grief and resilience and Gretchen tackles all facets of habits and happiness. Gretchen’s written the groundbreaking books, The Happiness Project, Happier at Home, and Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives, and she also hosts the popular podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin. Her forthcoming book, The Four Tendencies (about the personality framework she’s discovered) comes out September 12, 2017. Mark your calendars! But Gretchen is actually the best person to highlight this time of year!
Being proactive about remembering loved ones can make us happier. I call this positive and transformational concept the “Reflection Effect” and I write about it in O, the Oprah Magazine, and it’s at the heart of my book, Passed and Present, Keeping Memories of Loved Ones Alive. So, it’s with this in mind that I turned to Gretchen to find out how she’s derived joy and meaning from life after the loss of her beloved grandparents. As we spoke about resiliency and overcoming her personal losses, she also shared the importance of keeping a few cherished mementos and how certain smells (hot dogs!) spark comforting memories. [Read more…]