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Transitioning from passive mourning to active remembering is key to building resilience after loss

Option B Journalism piece by Allison GilbertIf you’re lucky, like me, soon after your loved one dies, a swarm of friends will embrace you in all sorts of meaningful ways. They’ll pack the funeral home, attend the wake or shiva, and a few may even leave homemade meals wrapped in tin foil by your front door so you won’t have to cook for a while. Rituals surrounding loss tend to kick into gear automatically and I benefitted from being the passive recipient of support when each of my parents passed away. Yet my greatest fortune ultimately caused me the most pain…Continue Reading

Parenting Magazine: The Granny Gap

What happens when Grandma and Grandpa aren’t around by the time you have kids? Here’s how to introduce your children to their memory.

My mom and I had a ritual when I was young. After I was packed for school, I’d help her get ready for work. READ MORE

CNN.com Politics: Geraldine Ferraro in Her Own Words

I had the great pleasure to know Geraldine Ferraro, the first female major party vice presidential nominee, who died Saturday.

We met during the writing of my 2006 book “Always Too Soon,” which chronicles the stories of prominent people who have lost both parents. Ferraro lost her father when she was 8 years old….Continue Reading

HuffPost: Being a Parentless Parent -The Effect on You, Your Children and Your Marriage

Both of my parents have passed away, and little has shaped the way I raise my children or affected the relationship I have with my husband and in-laws more than the fact that my mom and dad aren’t here to be grandparents to my children. I am a parentless parent.

Because women are having babies later and later, the number of parentless parents in America is skyrocketing….Continue Reading

HuffPost: What if Your Children Don’t Have Grandparents?

This coming Sunday is Grandparents Day, and while you may be skeptical about the influence grandparents have on grandchildren, let me tell you their impact is enormous and measurable. And it’s because of that that I know my children are missing out on so much.

For years, experts have researched the influence of grandparents on the lives of grandchildren…Continue Reading